[MA-SOC] How to find your soulmate
ifuritaoni at yahoo.com
Wed Jan 17 12:09:45 EST 2007
All I have to say on the issue...
To each their own. If you're in a relationship, you
should both be adults and communicate. Premarital,
postmartical, platonic, no-marital sex; it comes down
to the two ppl in the relationship to work it out for
themselves and figure out what they want/need from
What works for one relationship doesn't always apply
to another but by the same token, absolutes of any way
don't work in relationships....committment doesn't
always equate a ring and gods know a ring doesn't
always equate a committment (my exhusband started
cheating on me a WEEK after we exchanged rings....and
went for it the whole relationship until I accidently
busted him with some balding overweight white guy!).
In my opinion, it ultimately it comes down to trust,
mutual respect, and true love. Though I have no right
to talk considering my record.....
I will shut up and go away now.
--- rob at kohrtoons.com wrote:
> I am surprised no one else tackled the premarital
> sex issue that Louis
> brought up. There was a report back in December
> that was in most of the
> major newspapers that was based on a study which
> said that 95% of
> Americans have had premarital sex. The median age
> being 17. That said
> there was a statistic that 51% of women in the US
> are single. So most of
> that 95% failed, as Louis said.
> Just because you have sex does not mean the
> relationship will end poorly
> or that your life will end in a hellfire of torment
> as some religions
> I am not saying Louis is wrong, you need to decide
> before you date what
> you want and the ideals that your lady friend will
> want. Basic morals.
> If premarital sex is an issue for you it will be a
> deal breaker if she
> wants sex. The same applies to the reverse, you
> will just get frustrated.
> Make it part of your ideal that you want someone
> aligned with your morals.
> For those who are less than "moral". Give it time,
> no one nighters. Make
> sure that you want to do this with that person and
> that you feel
> comfortable. Don't be pressured. Some say wait a
> week others a month, I
> say 2-3 months. Just to make sure that she is not
> out for a booty call.
> > I can get married in Canada. :) Especially
> since I will move to Quebec
> > one day anyway. I am French and I prefer it there
> to here. French Canada
> > is like the best parts of both France and America!
> I don't even watch
> > American television. I only watch French TV (I
> love French sitcoms) and
> > japanese animé (English dub.) But even if you
> aren't religious, waiting in
> > regard to sex is beneficial for any relationship.
> If the relationship is
> > established, making love is always wonderful
> (there are not performance
> > issues when you love each other. And even if there
> are, you laugh about it
> > and solve them together.) You also know that the
> person is not going
> > anywhere.
> > I apologize to the women that I did not name
> personally in my original
> > post. I am very glad to see that women are
> well-represented in this
> > group (thank Heavens!)
> > -Louis
> > B Smith <ifuritaoni at yahoo.com> wrote:
> > Umm...
> > I see a loophole in that.....since you're gay and
> > can't get married anyway why bother with the
> > prohibitions against sex?
> > j/k.
> > Like they say in the Reeses peanut butter cups
> > commercial...there's no right way to find a
> > Ummm...Zoe, Jill, Angela, Marilyn, Peggy,
> > and many MANY others on this list are women too.
> > Jeez. >_< This isn't a boys-only club!
> > <_<;;
> > B Smith....when I think on it....I'm not sure WTF
> > count as....aw fcuk
> > --- Louis Wellington II
> > wrote:
> >> Ofer, just be yourself! :) You don't
> >> necessarily have to push yourself to be this
> >> wonderful man that Anthony is describing. Just:
> >> -Do activities that get you out of the house at
> >> least once or twice a week. But please explore
> >> honest interests. No cooking or dancing classes!
> >> you don't actually like to cook or dance, don't
> >> it (of course, if you love to cook or dance, it
> >> perfect.) Nobody likes a fraud.
> >> -And please be very picky with any woman that you
> >> would choose! It is much better to be single than
> >> settle. Trust me, you want to choose only the
> >> best. There would be many fewer divorces in this
> >> country if people just chose carefully.
> >> Relationships CAN be how you have dreamed it.
> >> have faith that your type of woman exists. No
> >> is perfect, but if you pick up flaws immediately,
> >> that does not bode well. Imagine when she ISN'T
> >> trying to impress you! And if you think that you
> >> don't deserve the best woman on Earth, make
> >> so that you will be worthy of her. When Lindsay
> >> Lohan comes around, you better be buff! ;o)
> >> -No premarital sex (and that includes oral!)
> >> Ok, maybe engagement sex, but not before that. I
> >> have talked to many straight men of all ages
> >> this and NONE of them said, "Oh yes, that whore
> >> I fucked on the first date, she's my wife of 30
> >> years now." When it starts out as sex, it never
> >> any deeper than that. Straight women are taught
> >> cherish their sexuality and to keep it sacred.
> >> Straight men should do the same. I'm gay and even
> >> won't fuck unless there's some type of ring
> >> involved. Shit........
> >> -Provided that you get yourself out there every
> >> couple of days, retreat into your world of video
> >> games and animé as much as you like! Do what
> >> you happy. I promise you, there is a girl out
> >> right now, playing with her Wii and wishing that
> >> guy she knew (who she was interested in) liked
> >> same thing.
> >> -TALK TO MANDISA! She is an actual woman. You
> >> can't get better advice than that. Q is a woman,
> >> too!
> >> -Louis
> >> P.S. Once you leave New Jersey, your social life
> >> will improve A LOT! Unless you are in an
> >> part of Hoboken, it is a bitch to get around NJ.
> >> ---------------------------------
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